Am I Wrong for Ruining My Best Friend’s Relationship with Her Family Just before Her Wedding?
Since the beginning, Amber and I have shared a very strong bond. She has been my best friend for decades now, and she has never failed to support me whenever I needed it. However, as of late, I have been experiencing a sense of remorse with regard to the fact that she has invariably been there for me. She took a stand for me once more in September of last year, but this time it had significant repercussions for her.
Are you someone who has ever had a friend who has always been there for you, no matter what? Amber is the person I consider to be that friend. The first time we met was in kindergarten, and ever since then, we have been inseparable of one another. When we were younger, we always celebrated our birthdays together by throwing a joint party. Even when we were in college, we continued to do so. Our birthdays are separate by one week.
Afraid that we would get further distant from one another as we both grew older and had employment, we decided to set aside Sundays as a time to meet up with one another. At some point, we would get together in a public place to discuss our weeks, engage in gossip about our romantic interests, and simply take pleasure in each other’s presence. After a while, Amber and her boyfriend developed a serious relationship, and he eventually proposed to her. At the same time as I was overjoyed for her, I assisted him in planning the entire event.
Almost immediately after that, Amber began making arrangements for the wedding, and she never delayed anything. Everyone was looking forward to the big day. Amber and Donovan drew me into the wedding planning process, most likely because they did not want me to have the impression that they were abandoning me now that they were moving on to the next stage of their relationship. In addition, I had a great time assisting my best friend in organising the ideal wedding.
The situation was under control in a short amount of time. The bridal shower was finished, and everything else for the big day was prepared and ready to go. When the day finally arrived, Amber was able to get ready without having to worry about anything going wrong because we had spent the past few weeks before the wedding going over every aspect in great detail to make sure that we didn’t miss anything.
It was also her request that I serve as her maid of honour, and I naturally and happily accepted the invitation. Amber and I prepared for the rehearsal dinner by spending the morning of the event getting ready. Before I assisted the ecstatic bride-to-be in putting on her dress, I took a shower that was really pleasant. The other bridesmaids, who were friends of Amber’s from both her college and career lives, were also present, along with one or two members of her family. When I overheard members of my closest friend’s family conversing, I was beaming with pride since I was witnessing my best friend in such a happy state.
A corner was where Amber, her aunt, and two of her cousins were gathered. I had gone to the bathroom, and just as I was walking back to where all the other ladies were finishing up their makeup and putting on their clothing, I walked past a corner where they were all congregated. When I heard my name being spoken, I was intending on walking past them without them knowing what I was doing because I didn’t want to go in and disturb them. When I paused to listen, I had the impression that I was spying, but I was also curious.
It was her Aunt who said, “Amber, I am going to say this in a firm but loving manner today.” It is not a good match for you to be with Lily. Just try to picture what the photographs of your wedding will look like if you have someone like her by your side. You don’t want to turn around in ten years and find that you’ve made a mistake in selecting your maid of honour.
Now, keep in mind that Amber is a woman that is really exquisite in appearance. In other words, out of ten. On the other hand, I am easily able to distinguish myself as the opposite of her. In general, I don’t get as much attention as Amber does since I am a little overweight, I have acne, I rarely manage to tame my wild and frizzy hair, and I sometimes fight to control my weight. However, this has never been a complication in the past. In order to make me feel like I was attractive, Amber has always been there for me, which is why she has such a significant place in my life. As luck would have it, my closest friend rallied around me once more to support me.
“Listen, I don’t care what any of you think; Lily has proven that she is worthy of the position of maid of honour in my wedding. She is someone who has been there for me through some of the most difficult periods in my life, and she would do anything to ensure that I am content. It is incredible how much she has contributed to the planning of this wedding; she has done more than all of you together. There is no way that she will leave.”
It seems that this was the conclusion of that. With a grin on my face, I made my way back to the dressing room to complete my makeup application. In addition to the fact that I had other things to take care of before Amber and Don could exchange their vows, I was even more desperate to avoid disappointing my closest buddy.
On the other hand, despite the fact that she had advocated on my behalf, it seemed as though the aunt and cousins were not finished with their plan to force me to leave the wedding. The thorny three, as I have come to think of them, suddenly took advantage of the opportunity to get a few more jabs in as we were all lining up in the dressing room, getting ready to begin the actual ceremony.
“Hey OP, I have a friend with really good Spanx that’ll make you look a lot skinnier under your dress if you want her number,” the aunt remarked with a slight chuckle.
“And I could probably help you wrangle that rat’s nest on your head before the wedding,” one cousin said, taking it upon herself to join in on the conversation.
However, it is highly unlikely that this will be sufficient to conceal your skin. It would be great if you could look into that.
In my entire life, that was without a doubt one of the most embarrassing experiences. It seemed like I was back in high school, and the bullies had picked the right time to embarrass me. I was humiliated. But I was not going to put up with their mistreatment. In a tone that was both obvious and direct, I instructed them to keep their lips quiet. In addition, I don’t believe that they had anticipated any kind of genuine response from me.
“Who are you, a group of spoiled, spoiled females from high school who have a grudge to settle? I was able to hear what you had to say to Amber about removing me from the wedding guest list. In order to make me feel insecure, I am aware that you are being petty. “You are far too old to be behaving in such a manner.”
Amber emerged from behind me when she did so with a furious grimace on her face. You would understand what I am talking about if you have ever witnessed a bride who was under a lot of stress during her rehearsal dinner yelling at members of her family.
Following a period of ten minutes during which she reprimanded them, Amber eventually instructed them to go. We had everything we needed to get ready for the wedding, and the remainder of the day went off without a hitch. Everyone got together the following morning in preparation for the big day. That is, everyone, with the exception of the three picky ones. The only thing they did was decline to show up; they never sent a note or anything else. Amber, on the other hand, did not appear to be concerned, and we all had a wonderful time celebrating the union between her and Don.
The following day, on the other hand, the aunt posted a rant on Facebook about how Amber was a “bridezilla,” and a few other members of the family joined her in standing up for her. At this point, Amber has made the decision to put some distance between herself and a few members of her family for the time being. She stays away from family gatherings and spends much of her time with her father’s side of the family. Despite the fact that I am really thankful for the friend that she is, I ponder whether or not my response was a little too harsh. I feel terrible that her family ties have been damaged as a result of my actions.
